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We broke up cause it wasn’t going anywhere. We took a “Break” and well never got back together. But I refuse to get online and “shop” for someone. I want to see the guy in 3D first, in person before I talk to him. I don’t want to see a one dimensional “picture” first.

He only talks about himself and never asks about you.

Most of us over 50 men have just as much dating issues as you do. I also think where you live plays a big role. I have lived in several areas and their are culture differences. I grew up close to the Canadian boarder in the US and came back years ago. Actually my last “girlfriend” was Canadian.

When I join dating sites, I talk to men on the phone and most of the time, do not feel enough of a connection to make me want to talk to them again. When I like someone, I like them too much that its scary …. I have read a lot here tonight, lots of different viewpoints, all educating. I had plans for our future together, I am now making plans for my future alone, spending more time with my daughters and with friends.

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You don’t have to play coy with every new person you meet. Make sure you’re giving good eye contact to whoever you’re on a date with—it’ll make them feel heard, respected, and more eager to learn about you, as well. She’s a doting dog mom to a half-corgi and an aspiring world-traveler who’s probably planning her next trip right now . It takes time to get to know someone so give it at least three dates to see if you click.

Actually, for some of us (I’m 53 and have never been on a date) there are not and never have been any options at all. Either a guy can attract women or he can’t – and if he can’t, there’s no point in trying. Through our journeys and observations what we’ve seen and learned is that life is what you make of it. And if you fail to adapt you will die and sometimes suffer fates worse than death.

The world we live in is constantly advertising what makes people happy and successful. It took me a very long time to stop listening to what the outside world was saying that creates happiness and listen to my heart. Your 60 and proud of dating women in their 20’s. So, as contemporary men are not offering a proper loyal partnership and companionship; it means that older women who are interested in a sexual liaison would also choose younger men. They would not choose an older man for physical attraction nor for sexual performance, nor for respect. These priorities are the wrong way around.

The problem is that we’ve all been burned, and most of us don’t handle it well. Women and men both have become very self-centered. It is hard to be vulnerable anymore for fear of being taken advantaged of. Other women I know tell me worse stories about men and online dating then what I’ve just told. And I realize you guys are being treated unfairly to pay for what some jerk did to a woman. People aren’t honest and kind anymore to each other.

I had never felt that, I stay fit, cycle, hike, and don’t weight much more than what I weighed at 21. I could keep up with her in most things. We had hours long discussions for years before getting married, about the age difference, and she always maintained it would never bother her and we would grow old together, no matter what. I am sorry, all of you good guys, who have been swept aside like trash when you’ve done nothing wrong worth breaking up a marriage or relationship over. I am still waiting for one of you to find me so I can show you what true love really is, in this world where now it is a rare thing indeed.

Many of us are looking for a companion or a friend or even a no-strings-attached lover. If it helps you find the right match for you it will be time well spent – especially when you consider that you could waste years on the wrong person. If you find yourself stressing over how your potential partner is pacing it, don’t ignore it.

She was younger and very good looking. I had to break up with her, I wanted it to work out. The more I got to know her and after I started to take down the blinders.

At least in Southern California, women in their 50s with some education and any remaining health and attractiveness only seek men who are retired millionaires. I really don’t think it’s rocket science. What it is is just being a decent, unselfish, and thoughtful human being. I never thought I would be doing this but I am and I am not about to be a male spinster. Just want someone to have conversations with and to start to live again.